The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers. – M. Scott Peck
Many of our most profound opportunities for growth, change, and progress are lost amidst the daily distractions we use to erase, escape, or elude the feelings that might spark in us some brighter light, some great resolve.
If we are overweight, we bury the uncomfortable feeling of being too big for our bodies at the bottom of a bucket of Ben & Jerry’s.
If we are unemployed, we may fall into a state of despair and confusion. We use avoidance techniques and try to bury the problem by falling into a state of confusion, lack of direction, focus and motivation. We tend to avoid facing the problem head, setting goals. Developing action plans and moving forward. We stay stuck which causes us more worry and despair.
Move out of the sad and avoidance box. Opt to gain clarity, direction, focus. Seek support systems. Career Coaches, Recruiters. Take action on discovering what it is that you want and move forward with even the smallest action each day. Don’t give up. It’s a process that takes time, the right resources and support systems. Consider reinventing yourself. Most important decide what it is you love and go for it.
Many people hide behind a computer building fantasy friendships to avoid loneliness. They build fantasy friends with people on the other end of a computer somewhere in the world so that the darkness doesn’t swallow them. Turn on the light. Surround yourself with light, positive affirmations and positive energy. Get out there and discover what you want. Get the support you need!
Yet in these moments, powerful moments the universe provides us as guide posts, street signs, and red flashing lights, we choose behaviors that perpetuate the very condition we are frantic to escape.
Perhaps the reason we are uncomfortable is that we need to change our position. Perhaps we are unhappy because we haven’t gotten over grief, let go of loss, or allowed ourselves to yearn for something more. Perhaps we are unfulfilled because we have run out of room in our lives and need to grow beyond the barriers and borders of what we believe. Perhaps the greatest disservice we do to ourselves is to disregard these opportunities to become the next version of who we want to be.
This week, as you go about your day, watch for the messages the universe is
putting in your path. Notice the guide posts and red flashing lights that show where you are disconnected and out of alignment with your values, and goals. Notice the unpleasantness for what it is, pause, and then take another step toward self-awareness, and Move Forward!